Positive Help for Relationships

Did you know my husband’s dad was married seven times and his mom five times? Both were committed Christians too. This dysfunctional background didn’t help Phil in his first marriage that ended in divorce. My first marriage also ended in divorce.

This brokenness gave Phil a desire to learn the relationship skills his parents couldn’t teach him so he could pass the wisdom on to his son. His career as a Chaplain in the LA National Guard provided the opportunity to study and earn certification in several relationship skills courses to help the soldiers.

Phil discovered several resources that he highly recommends to individuals and/or couples who struggle with relationship issues.

First, he shares his book list, he’s listed in foundational order. Each book builds upon the previous book. Phil says even married couples should read the jerk book (to learn how not to be a jerk). Many of these books helped us in our own marriage. Here is his book list he shares:

Second, is information regarding expectations we bring into relationships. Here are some charts to illustrate our needs:

Here is a list that can help an individual or couple recognize risk factors in their life. When an individual or couple have too many risk factors or even one major risk factor going on , it can lead to depression, anxiety, and (in cases where someone has made the issue or issues more important that life) even suicide.

Another great resource Phil and I found helpful in our marriage and also very entertaining is Mark Gungor’s video series for couples. Mark presents conferences for couples and this video is from the first night, the Tale of Two Brains. This is the full evening, there are shorter clips but I recommend watching thirty minutes at a time and talking about it.

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Precious Promise Market

Debbie demonstrates three promises from God’s Word that we use when counseling a child for salvation. We teach these promises to children using our 5-10 fingers!

You can also download our Precious Promise Cards we bind together with a chicken ring and give to children. (Print front and back, flip on long edge.)

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Destination Dig Mission Market

We created this brief video for the Lifeway Vacation Bible School 2021 kit, Destination Dig.

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How to Face the Storms of Life

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Summer Fun Days Music

Here are the songs we are using for our Vacation Bible School at Delacroix Hope Baptist Church 2021.

Theme Song:

The Building Song

This is our Memory Verse Song:

Memory Verse Song

Here is our Gospel Song

Jump Gospel Song by CEF Press

How to Dig for Buried Treasure Song

Three Questions Song by CEF Press

The Wise Man and the Foolish Man in English and Spanish

Mrs. Debbie and Señorita Gladys Sing The Wise Man and the Foolish Man Song

The lyrics for Psalm 1: Note a few errors, I should of said “wicked” instead of “foolish.” Also, I mispronounced “chaff,” I said “shaff,” lol. One other error, at the end I should of said, “build your “LIFE” on the Lord, instead of “house.” Maybe I can get the kids at VBS to sing this and I will create a video with them singing the song!

Here is the lyrics for Psalm 1

Here is the Cadence for Psalm 119:72. I hope to get a video of the children reciting the verse with the cadence… they are a LOT cuter than me, lol.

Simple way to memorize Psalm 119:72, Why is God’s law better than gold or silver?
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Children’s Father’s Day Lesson (Bi-lingual)

Debbie and Glady discovered that they were both preparing the same lessons, Gladys for Father’s Day in Peru, and Debbie for a mini -Vacation Bible School in St Bernard Parish, LA.

Enjoy teaching the children The Wise Man and the Foolish Man song (Matthew 7:24-27) in English and Spanish; plus, learn lyrics to go with Psalm 1 too.

Lesson with Music: Gladys Burgos teaching the Wise Man and Foolish Man in Spanish from her home in Lima, Peru
Music only: Gladys and Debbie sing the Wise Man and the Foolish Man in English and Spanish
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What to do when you don’t know what to do

Debbie shares a family devotion from Proverb 3:5-6

Scripture records the story of young King Rehoboam, King Solomon’s son, who began to reign after Solomon’s death. The people of Israel wanted to know how he would lead the country. He sought the council of the elders and then he sought the council of his buddies? Whose council do you think he followed?

If you guessed his buddies, you are correct. This led to the majority of Israel rebelling against the king except for the tribe of Judah. It’s not wise to listen to the council of the less experienced, especially in important matters.

When I was just learning how to live life as an independent adult, I faced a challenge in my life. I struggled and worried about what to do for days and weeks. Finally, one day, I saw a Bible verse on the front page of the Mobile Press Register (back in the day when it was a regular feature). The scripture verse said, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”

I tore the verse out of the paper and tacked in to my wall above the stove. I purposed in my heart that I would live by that verse and trust God with my problem. As I committed my life to trusting God, suddenly a transformation happened in me and also my environment around me. Instead of worrying and fretting, I had peace and rest. Instead of bitterness and revenge, I had love and forgiveness. Wow! What a difference looking to God for guidance made in my life.

This verse is a passage that the Lord brings to my remembrance time and time again as I face challenging situations in my life. What a blessing to know I don’t have to take matters in to my own hands, I can rest and trust in the guidance the Lord gives me.

How do I get that guidance? We can talk more about that next week!

I encourage you, when you face a major life issue, don’t look to social media or YouTube videos for advise look to the Lord! You cannot go wrong!

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The 10 Commandments: Quick and Easy

Here’s a wonderful way to help kids remember the 10 Commandments.

Debbie uses motions and visuals to make learning the 10 commandments easy
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Phil Sings the Gospel Fuzzie Song

Phil Leads the Gospel Fuzzie Song with preschool children
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Cadence for Psalm 119:72

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