October tends to bring out all the spooky themes, but for our little ones, it can be more than just pretend. It’s real fear. As parents, we know how easily our preschoolers can feel scared—whether it’s the dark, a storm, or just loud noises. But we also have the incredible opportunity to guide them through these fears by teaching them that God is always with them. Here’s how we can help.
Understanding Fear in Preschoolers
Let’s be real—preschoolers can be afraid of everything! The dark, thunderstorms, loud sounds, and even things like going to bed alone. And since they’re so young, they don’t always know how to express those fears clearly. They might act out, get clingy, or have trouble sleeping. But that’s where we, as parents, can step in to help.
It’s important to recognize their fears are real to them, even if they seem small to us. Have you noticed your little one suddenly getting nervous at night or jumping at loud noises? These are the moments when we can gently help them understand that they’re never alone because God is always with them.
Psalm 56:3 – A Verse to Calm Their Hearts
One of my favorite verses to teach during these times is Psalm 56:3, “When I am afraid, I will trust in you.” It’s simple enough for a preschooler to understand, but packed with meaning. Child Evangelism Fellowship even turned it into a song that we added motions to to help you help them remember it. I love repeating this verse with my kids, especially during moments when they feel anxious. It helps them understand that fear is normal, but we can trust God to be with us through it.
You could even make this verse part of your bedtime routine or say/sing it together when they feel scared. The more they hear it, the more they’ll begin to remember it when those feelings of fear creep in.
Practical Tips for Helping Your Preschooler Overcome Fear
Now let’s get into some practical ways you can support your preschooler when they’re feeling afraid.
- Modeling Calmness
When those thunderstorms roll in or the power goes out, it’s natural for kids to freak out a bit. But our calm response can do wonders for them. They look to us for cues on how to react. When we stay calm, it reassures them that everything is okay, and we can even say something like, “God is with us, and He’s keeping us safe.” It’s a great opportunity to remind them of God’s presence. I love wrapping my children up in cozy blankets and hugging them really tight. We’ve coined it “comfy cozy” time and they love knowing they’re safe in my arms. Use this time to share that God is there keeping them safe too. - Storytelling
Another great way to teach your child about God’s protection is through storytelling. One of the many places you can see God’s protection modeled in Scripture is the story of Jesus calming the storm. It’s such a vivid reminder that even in scary situations, Jesus has everything under control. It’s amazing how much this story calms our kids when they feel afraid. CEF Press Little Kids Can Know God Through His Miracles includes this story with great visuals and additional tips. You can also create your own stories where God helps a little child overcome fear. Make it personal and relatable! Kids love hearing their parents make up stories! Enlist Dad on this one — my husband makes up the best stories that our children love and remember! - Creating a Safe Space
Bedtime can be a tricky time for preschoolers, especially if they’re afraid of the dark or being alone. Creating a comforting bedtime routine can work wonders for calming their fears. This could include reading a Bible story, saying prayers and singing together, and maybe even using a nightlight that reminds them that God is with them. You can say something like, “Let’s ask God to be with you tonight and help you feel brave,” right before bed. It reassures them and helps make the connection between faith and comfort. We love the song Jesus is Caring For You by Child Evangelism Fellowship. My children also love the calming scents of lavender. We use the Monster Sleep Spray from Jordan Essentials that calms and relaxes them, helping them fall asleep much faster.
Trusting God Together
Helping our preschoolers navigate their fears is an ongoing journey, but reminding them of God’s presence is one of the best gifts we can give. Every time we speak His promises to them, we’re building a foundation of faith that will last a lifetime.
I’d love to hear from you—how do you help your little ones deal with fear? Let’s share ideas and encourage one another as we walk this path of parenting together!
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